All in Old Relationship

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Since my husband had left me, a common or logical response would be that I was at fault. Was I not pretty or sexy enough? Not intelligent or accomplished enough? Not a good enough companion or mother?

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Because I wasn’t the one who ended the marriage, I felt more embarrassment than shame. I felt embarrassed because I just knew that everyone thought I made poor or rash decisions, wasn’t able to be a good wife or life partner, didn’t know how to pick a good husband, didn’t prioritize my daughter’s wellbeing over my own, or was hiding some great deficiency that would cause a man to leave me. 

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A few months after my ex left, sometime in late January, I was sitting around, minding my own business and rebuilding my life. And then WHAM! I got a hostile text from my ex saying that the paralegal he hired for our divorce had been trying (unsuccessfully) to serve me with divorce papers.

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There was a relatively short period of time wherein I was completely unsure of the fate of my marriage. In that time, I was desperately trying to figure out what was happening, why it was happening, what was going to happen, and how I could change it. In conversations with family and friends, there was one common response I kept getting - “oh, he’ll be back.”